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Comparison leads to depression

I have been depressed at one point of time some 5 years ago. So I understand that depression is not a simple phenomena where it is easy to establish causal relationships. But one of the reason why we tend to get depressed is because we tend to compare ourselves to others. Recently, I was talking to a close friend of mine . She was asking me about how I studied to crack IIT-JEE and what kind of work I used to do. I told her as a matter of fact, how I used to study in a productive manner and work consistently. All of a sudden she started crying. This came as a shocker to me. After calming her, I asked her why did she cry all of a sudden. The answer really surprised me. She said that she feels bad whenever she sees achieving more than her. She said that she hasn't achieved anything in life and she is not sure of the future. This answer was really shocking and sad from my perspective. In my perspective, this friend of mine has achieved a lot in life. She has excellent interpersonal